Post-sex blues: here’s why it’s normal to feel sad after sex
Have you ever experienced it?
Have you ever experienced it?
If you’ve experienced a post-coital cry or just a general feeling of sadness after sex, don’t panic. You’re not alone – in fact it turns out it’s actually completely normal.
It’s easy to think that you’re the only one to experience it, with people rarely opening up about the issue - plus, if romantic comedies are anything to go by, the only emotion felt after sex is an endorphin-filled euphoria.
In reality, however, sudden post-sex blues is completely normal and very common, so much so in fact that a whopping 46 per cent of women will experience it at some point.
The post-sex blues occurs in the immediate minutes after sex, with some women experiencing sudden feelings of sadness, anxiety and tearfulness. It doesn’t last for long and is nothing to be worried about – plus it’s important to remember that it is not a sign of unsuccessful sex, it’s simply one of many natural reactions.
‘Some people like to cuddle, others like to be alone and there are others who experience what is described as post-sex blues’, explained Professor Robert Schweitzer, reporting on the issue to the Daily Mail.
He continued: ‘There are a wide range of responses in the period of time immediately following sexual activity, known as the “resolution phase”’.
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According to science it is completely normal, with a 2017 study even revealing that men struggle with the same emotional reactions after sexual activity.
If you have experienced the post-coital blues before, you will know that the low is only temporary and doesn’t last long. Plus, once the post-sex sadness calms down, you will have a 48 hour post-sex afterglow to look forward to.
Jenny Proudfoot is an award-winning journalist, specialising in lifestyle, culture, entertainment, international development and politics. She has worked at Marie Claire UK for seven years, rising from intern to Features Editor and is now the most published Marie Claire writer of all time. She was made a 30 under 30 award-winner last year and named a rising star in journalism by the Professional Publishers Association.
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